| HOW TO LEARN TO THE COMMUNICATION WITHOUT INSULTS?
Boris Belevtsov
The founder of communication services in which families with children and everyone learn to the communication without insults and fight against the child's psyche in adults and children with the goal of creating an environment of psychologically adults in the worldview of people, thanks to which every child can focus on revealing their natural potential in order to further self-realization in life!
Before learning how to communicate without insults, it is necessary to understand the reasons why a person psychologically needs to insult and humiliate other people.
INSULTS ARE ONE OF THE SIGNS OF A PSYCHOLOGICALLY NON-ADULT PERSON, SINCE SELF-EXALTATION BY HUMILIATING OF OTHERS IS INHERENT EXCLUSIVELY IN CHILDREN! A PSYCHOLOGICALLY ADULT DOES NOT NEED TO HUMILIATE PEOPLE!
Often, many conflicts are based on unconscious insults, when a person does not even understand what he is insulting. The power of action always generates the power of counteraction, and unintentional insults lead to retaliatory insults, resentment, quarrels and even aggression and violence!
Users, in a multifunctional social smartmedia «EnglishryPremium.com» using the system of color blocksigns «Conflict-free Thinking™» instead of retaliatory insults in the process of everyday communication, send each other color blocksigns. Each blocksign corresponds to a specific group of criteria for insults.
NOTE «Criteria for insults» (see below).
COLORED BLOCKSIGNS
By delving into the meaning of insults, both children and adults begin to understand what exactly is insulting and why they should not do it. In this way, everyone gradually develops the skills of conflict-free thinking or communication without insults.
CONFLICT-FREE THINKING OF A CHILD DIRECTLY AFFECTS RELATIONSHIPS WITH PEOPLE ON WHOM HIS SAFETY, QUALITY OF LIFE, FATE AND SELF-REALIZATION DEPEND!
NOTE If a person does not elevate himself above others, humiliating the people around, then only in this case will a correct self-esteem be formed - not overestimated or underestimated, but a balanced self-esteem, thanks to which a person will be able to understand himself, identify his strengths and realize them!
IMPORTANT! BY DISCUSSING THE BLOCKSIGNS, THEREBY CORRECTING THE WORLDVIEW, A PERSON HELPS TO DEVELOP AN HONEST SELF-ESTEEM NOT ONLY FOR HIMSELF, BUT ALSO FOR EVERYONE WHO IS IN THE DISCUSSION!
IMPORTANT! THE BLOCKSIGNS SENT TO EACH OTHER IN RESPONSE TO INSULTS ARE NOT TEACHINGS, BUT A MANIFESTATION OF CARE AND GOODWILL, HELPING TO AUTOMATICALLY REVEAL A PERSON’S STRENGTHS!
| THE ONE WHO INSULTS IS NOT SELF-REALIZATION IN LIFE!
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In order for a person to find himself in life, he needs to reveal his natural potential — his strengths. To do this, it is necessary to develop a balanced self-esteem, thanks to which a person will be able to adequately assess their real capabilities in life, for example, what a person can really do, and what he categorically should not do. But low self-esteem, when a child is humiliated, or, conversely, overestimated, when a child elevates himself by humiliating others, introduces a person into self-deception, which as a result does not allow him to understand himself.
In addition, conflicts due to mutual insults, usually unconscious, and, as a result, poor relationships, of course, do not contribute to self-realization, since a person's personal self-realization in society depends at least 50% on the people around them.
EXCLUSIVELY PSYCHOLOGICALLY NON-ADULT: CHILDREN AND BIOLOGICALLY ADULTS, WHO HAVE PRESERVED THE CHILD'S PSYCHE IN ADULT LIFE, ARE NOT ABLE TO REALIZE THAT LIFE IS A LONG-TERM TEAM GAME IN WHICH ALL PEOPLE ARE ALWAYS INTERDEPENDENT ON EACH OTHER!
The desire of a child to seem like an adult in the eyes of his peers, to be "cooler" and more significant than his peers at any cost, is the main cause of insults among teenagers and children. Because of lack of patience, the use of insults allows the child to elevate himself here and now. In addition, insults are one of the forms of aggression, which is based on children's fear of others. As a result, the protective reaction of a psychologically non-adult person often manifests itself in the form of violence, humiliation and meanness, as a rule, to those who are weaker (women, children, the elderly).
THERE IS A NEED FOR A CATEGORICAL BAN ON INSULTS AMONG TEENAGERS AND CHILDREN!
Creating an environment of a categorical ban on insults in the smartnet «EnglishryPremium.com» will psychologically force the child to develop independently. In the case when children and teenagers will not be able to humiliate each other, then the only way for them to elevate themselves is to elevate themselves with real deeds and real knowledge. To do this, the child will simply have to discover his strengths, find himself in life, succeed and realize himself both in his personal life and in the life of society, as a result of which he will live a decent, happy life.
| CRITERIA FOR INSULTS
INSULTING A PERSON'S PERSONALITY
The group of insults criteria corresponding to the orange blocksign:
- humiliation by verbal insults;
- humiliation by distorting a person's name (nickname);
- humiliation by comparison with someone / something;
- personal attack (discussing a person's personality, not the meaning of what the person is saying);
- unreasonable assessment;
NOTE When communicating, people constantly evaluate events and people around them. In psychologically non-adult people, value judgments are based on speculation and assumptions, not on real facts. By expressing judgments without justification, a person does not even understand that he is insulting others.
- intentional reputational damage based on slander or defamation;
- humiliation by unreasonable distrust;
- humiliation by arrogance:
- humiliation by an obsessive display of intellectual as well as social superiority;
- humiliation by neglect of a person (an attitude towards a person as something insignificant, as an empty place);
- bullying in the form of ridicule and cruel jokes.
NOTE «Ridicule» is a form of mockery and bullying of a person. Ridicule is used by psychologically non-adult people, children and teenagers, as a rule, a group of people of teenage psychological age, cowardly, vile, capable of exclusively collectively mocking those who cannot stand up for themselves.
IN THE FUTURE, OFTEN THE OBJECT OF BULLYING AND MOCKERY SHOWS AGGRESSION AND VIOLENCE TOWARDS THE OFFENDERS IN THE FORM OF REVENGE DUE TO FEELINGS OF RESENTMENT!
THE PREVENTION OF AGGRESSION AND VIOLENCE AMONG PSYCHOLOGICALLY NON-ADULT PEOPLE IS POSSIBLE ONLY IF AN ENVIRONMENT IS CREATED THAT CATEGORICALLY PROHIBITS INSULTS AMONG ADOLESCENTS AND CHILDREN!
EXTREME INSULTS AND HUMAN SECURITY MONITORING
The group of criteria for insults and human security monitoring corresponding to the black blocksign:
- cyberbullying; child or adult abuse;
- as a result of collective humiliation, bringing to a state as a result of which a child or a psychologically non-adult develops a feeling of contempt for society, a person becomes a lifelong society-hater, an adherent of asocial and antisocial thinking and behavior, for example, a mass shooter, a criminal, a sociopath, etc.;
- inducement to commit suicide or self-harm;
- suspicions of domestic violence;
- humiliation based on physiological characteristics;
- humiliation based on ethnic differences;
- insult to religion;
- recruitment to a terrorist organization, totalitarian sect or destructive cult;
- suspicion of online fraud;
- propaganda of neo-nazism, extremism; calls for the murder of people;
- the desire of a person prone to aggression (with signs of a child's psyche!) to acquire firearms;
- animal abuse;
- dissemination of fake news;
- spread of panic;
- distribution of photo/video materials prohibited by law;
- a blogger who parasitizes psychologically non-adult people (children, teenagers, or adults), namely:
- information without the content of vital knowledge, skills and experience;
- distracting and stealing the attention of a child, teenager, or psychologically non-adult and focusing on the superficial and inconsequential, as a result of which a person does not grow up psychologically, as a result, is unable to focus on unlocking his potential, his strengths;
IN ORDER TO PREVENT "MASS SHOOTING", ACCIDENTS, ROBBERIES WITH FIREARMS, IF RELATIVES OR ACQUAINTANCES, USING A BLACK AND GREEN BLOCKSIGNS, PREVIOUSLY NOTED A PERSON'S SIGNS OF A CHILD'S PSYCHE AND/OR TENDENCY TO AGGRESSION, IT IS STRONGLY RECOMMENDED THAT GOVERNMENT AGENCIES DO NOT ISSUE A PERMIT FOR THE PURCHASE OF FIREARMS TO SUCH A PERSON!
NOTE If inside the smartnet «EnglishryPremium.com» attempts of cyberbullying, inducement to commit suicide, recruitment to terrorist organizations, fraud attempts, etc. have been noted, users using a black blocksign can also attract the attention of other members of the smart network or notify law enforcement agencies for verification.
INSULTS OF FEMALE DIGNITY
The group of insults criteria corresponding to the pink blocksign:
- humiliation of the authority of a woman;
- discrediting women's responsibilities;
- profanity;
- unfounded remarks;
- unconstructive criticism;
- excessive raising of voice;
IN ORDER TO AVOID PROVOKING SCANDALS, A MAN IS STRICTLY PROHIBITED FROM MAKING OFFENSIVE REMARKS ABOUT THE PSYCHOLOGICAL IMMATURITY TO A WOMAN WITH OBVIOUS SIGNS OF A CHILD’S PSYCHE! REMEMBER, ONLY PSYCHOLOGICALLY NON-ADULT WOMEN BEHAVE VERY STUPIDLY!
REMEMBER! ALMOST EVERYONE, TO ONE DEGREE OR ANOTHER, HAS SIGNS OF A CHILD’S PSYCHE! INSTEAD OF MUTUAL INSULTS AND HUMILIATIONS, PATIENT STUDY OF THEM TOGETHER IS STRONGLY RECOMMENDED!
INSULTS OF MALE DIGNITY
The group of insults criteria corresponding to the blue blocksign:
- humiliation of the authority of a man;
- discrediting men's responsibilities;
- profanity;
- unfounded remarks;
- unconstructive criticism;
- excessive raising of voice;
IN ORDER TO AVOID PROVOKING SCANDALS OR DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, A WOMAN IS STRICTLY PROHIBITED FROM MAKING OFFENSIVE REMARKS ABOUT PSYCHOLOGICAL IMMATURITY TO A MAN WITH OBVIOUS SIGNS OF A CHILD’S PSYCHE! REMEMBER, IT IS ONLY PSYCHOLOGICALLY NON-ADULT MEN WHO RAISE THEIR HANDS AGAINST THOSE WHO ARE WEAKER!
REMEMBER! ALMOST EVERYONE, TO ONE DEGREE OR ANOTHER, HAS SIGNS OF A CHILD’S PSYCHE! INSTEAD OF MUTUAL INSULTS AND HUMILIATIONS, PATIENT STUDY OF THEM TOGETHER IS STRONGLY RECOMMENDED!
NOTE Users, exclusively native speakers of the language and identity, depending on the characteristics of the national culture, using the color blocksign system «Conflict-free thinking™» can independently add insult criteria, as well as add socially significant issues for general discussion among users within communication services «EnglishryPremium.com»!
SIGNS OF A CHILD PSYCHE IN ADULTS , TEENAGERS AND CHILDREN THAT NEED TO BE DEALT WITH!
A group of signs of a child and teenage psyche corresponding to a green blocksign:
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THERE IS A NEED FOR A CATEGORICAL BAN ON INSULTS AMONG TEENAGERS AND CHILDREN!
NOTE When communicating, people constantly evaluate events and people around them. In psychologically non-adult people, value judgments are based on speculation and assumptions, not on real facts. By expressing judgments without justification, a person does not even understand that he is insulting others.
- humiliation by an obsessive display of intellectual as well as social superiority;
- humiliation by neglect of a person (an attitude towards a person as something insignificant, as an empty place);
- bullying in the form of ridicule and cruel jokes.
NOTE «Ridicule» is a form of mockery and bullying of a person. Ridicule is used by psychologically non-adult people, children and teenagers, as a rule, a group of people of teenage psychological age, cowardly, vile, capable of exclusively collectively mocking those who cannot stand up for themselves.
- information without the content of vital knowledge, skills and experience;
- distracting and stealing the attention of a child, teenager, or psychologically non-adult and focusing on the superficial and inconsequential, as a result of which a person does not grow up psychologically, as a result, is unable to focus on unlocking his potential, his strengths;
IN ORDER TO AVOID PROVOKING SCANDALS, A MAN IS STRICTLY PROHIBITED FROM MAKING OFFENSIVE REMARKS ABOUT THE PSYCHOLOGICAL IMMATURITY TO A WOMAN WITH OBVIOUS SIGNS OF A CHILD’S PSYCHE! REMEMBER, ONLY PSYCHOLOGICALLY NON-ADULT WOMEN BEHAVE VERY STUPIDLY!
REMEMBER! ALMOST EVERYONE, TO ONE DEGREE OR ANOTHER, HAS SIGNS OF A CHILD’S PSYCHE! INSTEAD OF MUTUAL INSULTS AND HUMILIATIONS, PATIENT STUDY OF THEM TOGETHER IS STRONGLY RECOMMENDED!
IN ORDER TO AVOID PROVOKING SCANDALS OR DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, A WOMAN IS STRICTLY PROHIBITED FROM MAKING OFFENSIVE REMARKS ABOUT PSYCHOLOGICAL IMMATURITY TO A MAN WITH OBVIOUS SIGNS OF A CHILD’S PSYCHE! REMEMBER, IT IS ONLY PSYCHOLOGICALLY NON-ADULT MEN WHO RAISE THEIR HANDS AGAINST THOSE WHO ARE WEAKER!
REMEMBER! ALMOST EVERYONE, TO ONE DEGREE OR ANOTHER, HAS SIGNS OF A CHILD’S PSYCHE! INSTEAD OF MUTUAL INSULTS AND HUMILIATIONS, PATIENT STUDY OF THEM TOGETHER IS STRONGLY RECOMMENDED!